Fear Is A Funny Thing.

Fear is a funny thing. Even when you learn and know how to work your way through fear, it still can manage to creep in there and spoil your thoughts. It jumps in when you least expect it and turns your world upside down. When we are afraid to do something, or we are put into a situation that we are fearful of, how do we cope?

Well you have two choices. You can sit in the fear or you can face it head on. What I know to be true is, the longer you sit on the situation of fear the harder It gets. Remember when you were a little kid, and you were afraid to rip off the Band-Aid because you were it was going to hurt? Then your dad grabbed the Band-Aid and just ripped it off when you weren’t paying attention. You had that moment of pain, and then realized it wasn’t nearly as bad as you thought it was going to be? The Band-Aid effects. Yes, it’s uncomfortable, you don’t want to do it, but if you just get it over with, it’s done. You can move on with your life and throw the Band-Aid in the garbage. 

Fear is just a feeling, attached to anxiousness, and the more you sit and worry and wonder, the harder it gets to face the fear. The What if’s will drive you crazy, and you can play the situation over in your head a thousand times but doing that just makes it worse. One of the things I have learnt is to sit and write your fearful situation out as if the outcome goes exactly as you want it to. If everything were to go in your favor what would that look like? This could be a daily exercise to work on till you have faced the fear. 

***Example: Today I finally went and quit my job. My stomach was full of butterflies, but I walked in shoulders back, head held high. I sat in my boss’s office and told him that I had found a wonderful opportunity somewhere else and that my last day would be in two weeks. He congratulated me on my new job and wished me the best. He shook my hand and told me that he was sad to see me go, but excited to see where I land. It was the best feeling in the world. I have no idea why I stressed and worried about this all weekend long. 

Allowing the fear to sit in your body and imaging the several different scenarios that could happen, will only make you anxious and afraid. Not to mention you are beginning to manifest your own reality. The more negative vibes you put out, the more likely you are to receive what you are thinking of. 

However, as Mark Twain would say “Stop thinking of what could go wrong, and start thinking about what could go right!” Okay, I know what some of you are thinking…. I used to think this to! Your thinking what if you are thinking positively about the situation that you are in fear of, you tackle the fear and it goes south. Not the way you planned, at all, and then you start to think that this whole manifestation thing is a bunch of B.S. You give up and stop believing in the power of manifestation. Well, every time a fearful situation didn’t go the way I had wanted it to, I was upset, but at least it was over, at least I knew the answer, at least the break up was done. Whatever the situation was. But the the best part is, it always opens me up to something more amazing.  See if your willing to believe that you are being guided by God or the Universe, you are willing to surrender to a plan that is greater than your own. You are willing to trust that if something doesn’t work out that it wasn’t meant to be and that something even better will come into your life. 

At the end of the day, you have got to start doing the things that are good for you. Every day, YOU MUST ASK YOURSELF, is what I am doing going to help me on the road to my dreams, and if the answer is No, it’s got to go. And it probably will be hard, and you may be upset for a day or two, but overall it will make you a happier better version of yourself. That I am sure of. 

So, the next time you have to go face something that throws your stomach into painful knots remember that when you face that fear once and for all, you will know. You will have an answer, and you can start working towards the next piece of the puzzle in life. You’ve got this. Remember that. You are so much stronger than you think you are. You have totally got this. Take the class, apply for the new job, make the phone call, cut the cord on the friendship, whatever it might be, as hard as it may feel what feels even worse is continuing in a state of uncomfortableness for weeks, months or years to come. Join me this week in facing a fear. Rip off the Band-Aid, I promise, if it stings it won’t hurt for long.

Till next week Babes.

XO,

Angie